Phobias are fears that stem from traumatic and painful events or relationships, which might have caused feelings of anger, resentment, helplessness, powerlessness, guilt, shame, abandonment, separation, heartbreak, unworthiness, or a sense of overwhelm. Our book gives the reader the ability to become aware of what the obstacle is that is paralyzing him or her from making or keeping a commitment, and then we give the tools to rapidly disperse the issue.
Our society has become increasingly fear driven which is readily apparent if you frequent airports or read/listen to the media or politicians. This increase in fear and anxiety perhaps causes people to be more stressed out and overwhelmed today then they were 5 years ago. Or perhaps the increasing lack of intimacy in communication with the advent of instant messaging, emails and voice mails have caused us to be insensitive to others since we do not have to look people in the eye or speak to them directly to cancel or not show for appointments or meetings. last minute cancellations may happen for a variety of reasons:
1. Sometimes canceling allows us to act out our rebellious nature. this scenario stems from a fear of powerlessness, or a fear that our needs won't be met, or we simply have a better last minute option which causes less stress. Canceling in this case is one way to indirectly express anger, resentment, frustration, etc. and feel like we are finally exerting some control over another person or situation.
2. Anxiety often causes us to cancel appointments for doctors, business or social engagements which might make us feel comfortable. We may distort our priorities at the last minute to avoid feeling rejection, abandonment, lack of self worth, shame or embarrassment.
3. Problems with self-discipline, attention or procrastination may cause us to have little awareness of what we are feeling or where our priorities are in any given moment. When this is the case, there is often lack of time management skills.
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